How to Grow UP!

One thing about growing up is it's hard, no one really wants to take on the decision making the finance headache or the of being completely independent. Or you're never really prepared, but what I think of how to grow up, is somehow deep inside you know it will come a day where when you look in the mirror its just your reflection staring back. Meaning that you'll have be responsible of your life, your destiny, your decisions. It's hard believe me if anyone said it will be a cakewalk they know their a lie lol, like seriously when you think about it and how people always have these struggle stories it doesn't mean that their week or is deciding to take that route. No more than likely they've had obstacles to cross in order to be in situation where, the societal way hasn't necessarily worked for them. Now I'm not all for being a rebel just to make ends meet (ya'll know what I'm talking about hustling, stripping,) but I do understand people have to make a way for themselves. I've learned that no one is going to meet you with an opportunity, you have to go out there and get it by any means necessary, like seriously, I've had so many rejections, fail attempts just by my appearance, but what I keep telling myself I am who I am and it's either they are going to love me or leave me and that's that if I waisted so much time trying to fit the mode. I wouldn't have and identity but secondly I wouldn't allow myself to grow up. Me and someone was talking about having the choice to struggle or not to struggle, and I was telling them that either if you have all your ducks in a row (having a place to stay, a job, money in the bank) there is always something taking from something, and you just have to prepare for it. It's called LIVING that was I was telling them, and they were the ever persistant "well I wouldn't want to struggle". So I had to let them know its all about taking that chance to grow up and allow yourself that freedom, of being able to experience that willingness of being on your own once. My overall theory here is that you'll never be ready to grow up but as time goes on it gives you the liberation to reflect and mentally exercise your dreams, aspirations as a human. Everyone is here to serve a purpose never forget that and I'm the rode to my destiny, cause I'm destined for the good, bad and the ugly THANGZ lol. Are U? xoxo - Moiciara

Money, Sex, Love...

From generation to generation, Money, Sex and Love have always been a topic. Such as: Does the money play a factor in the relationship? Do I enjoy the sex or should I seek it elsewhere? Is love the primary reason for this relationship? Let me answer all these... The answer is yes, no, hell yeah and hell no :) First starting with the Money; Money does play a factor in a relationship lets be honest, no one wants to date anyone who isn't by any means dating someone who can't foot the bill sometimes or purchase a gift here or there, it's the spontany of it that makes it a gesture versues a task. I've been in relationships and I've coughed a lot of "coinage" while others were a little to shy with their money. Walking into a relationship with someone can't consist of money because, money isn't a foundation its a necessity versuses the platform for the foundation. Secondly I refuse to fall in love with someone due to how much they have cause at the end of the day when were alone it's got to be more than just a billed that was paid or gift that was bought. Now onto Sex; oooh sex don't we all love this topic, starting out with sex is just the ultimate no no no... Why because just cause the sex is good, doesn't mean the relationship is. I'm not saying going by a "3 month rule" of some sort is worth doing to get to know the person better before giving up the draws. I belive having sex with someone does kinda in a sense set the tone for the relationship, you have to know if you all are sexually compatiable but at the same time, people don't know how to move forward after the sex, it's like all the mist of it was good but let's work on the communication, the interest, the moments, this is where a lot of folks hit the wall, because in our society we've always focused on a mantra of "get in, and get out", and that's not the best way to go into anything thinking setting the tone for moment is always better in the end with communication and each other's interest. Here comes Love; We've all embraced love with open arms, or we've rejected it with closed arms. Love is first and formost what makes the world go round you have to be able to give and receive in order to have functioning emotions. I love being in love because in a weird way it gives me clarity but at the same time reassurance of how amazing someone else can be, to want to be romantically involved with me. Love is like a constant reminder of life and how you can function for others besides yourself, I'm definitely an advocate for love so hey I'm #teamLOVE. I want to wrap all this by saying, that having a foundation is "The Primary" for any relationship getting to know someone on a intimate level is always going to set the tone of the course of the relationship, be open, honest and willing to trust, and you can't go wrong. Now I'm not saying you won't hit a few bumps in the road but it's all about the experience to see what works best for you (ding). What works best for you is always going to come first so always be mindful of that you set the TONE! xoxo- Moiciara

The Typical Guy

Hey you guy's I'm sure, we've all been down this road of dating the typical guy. Someone who wasn't worth it but we tried to make it worth it... my advice forget about it! as the saying goes "drop that zero and get you a hero" xoxo- Moiciara

The Past

Over time I usually examine myself... Don't we all, but anyway I was listening to some music (my favorite hobbies) and start thinking. I was a part of the class of 2007 and what a year it was about to be for me. I had all my ducks in row minus a few stray ones. What I thought of everything, seemed so clear to me in all of my departments: love, life and happiness. Honestly I think that year was my first time I had ever really had my hands filled with everything that I wanted. But what the course of that year taught me I wasn't ready for nothing lol... When are you ever ready for anything anyway... NEVER. But reflecting back on it and how everything went down and how my feelings got the best of me through and through, what it has taught me that I had a long way to go on my road to discovery in my infamous departments: Love, Life and Happiness. The crazy thing about now is that when I reflect I think of how much stronger and how clear my vision is on life. Thanking all of those who've been a part of this rollercoaster ride of mine... Ok let me stop with my speeching lol, that wasn't why I was righting this, I want people to know this is how your past works, it's not just a bunch of recollection of things to make everything a new. What it offers a new window, a new opposition for you to take the experiences that you've experienced and turn around and face them and tell those challenges that "You had me, you lost me, and now I'm gone" meaning that it was only a point in time when these occurences were going to be around for you to utilize, until it was time for it to move on and you move on with it. Looking at the past as a relationship (because in reality it is) if offers you some good times some bad times and times when you can't fill in the blanks. Honestly it's the only thing you can't escape due to there is always going to be a past 24yrs from now til 1yr from now lol. By standing strong and learning from the mistakes and moments of doubt you will see that the other side of the grass was already green it just needed a little attention. xoxo - Moiciara

HURT FEELINGS

I know, I know don't be mad at me folks... the internet connection as been "sucky" around my parts so I'm finally able to give you... Hurt Feelings this video means a lot in general because as humans we experience this one re-occurring feelings being hurt by Love Life and the Pursuit of Happiness so enjoy xoxo- Moiciara

STAND UP (VULNERable)

It's like this we usually say we want to live in reality, so we'll have a chance to accept fantasies. What I've learned as being an representation of life, is you have to be able to stand up for your reality/fantasy. At the same time you hold a hint of vulnerablity and firmness to any compromising situation or just being successful. Once you open that door for you to stand up not for what you believe in but actual representation of existence of the way things are "meant" to be, no one can put a cap on that bottle. Being vulnerable gives you a chance to either be accepting of the wrong or right moves you have made to better your life as a whole. But what gives that piece of existence is having that emotion to impact not just you and who you are and what you do. But it gives you "purpose". Honestly it's just like watching tv and you get teary-eyed or angry at something because you've allowed yourself to be open and Stand Up for that emotion of vulnerability. Learning to being accepting of fault and winning is losing at the same time, just because you've gained something in one form you've lost something in another way. We are constantly evolving remember that so let no one or no thing distract you from your purpose, your goal, your state of mind because this is your life so accept that deal with it. Tie those shoe laces tight boys and girls cause this journey is always going and constantly changing xoxo- Moiciara

Fill The Void

Hey you guys I'm back at it with a new video, hope you guys enjoy this xoxo- Moiciara

Tidbits of Love

One of the most fascinating things about love, is how it molds your character. I've been in and out, up and down with love and there were a lot of times where I just felt that it has to be more to love than this. By taking the initiative to want better you will receive better. Love gives you a sense of stability that only few things can offer that. I'm one of the hopeful people who feels love gives a new vision or lease on life when you love something or someone, you become more open and willing to let people see you in a very relaxed state of mind. It's kinda like going through some type of probation period, lol like once you reach that point where you're at the end of the tunnel you know freedom of inhibitions don't seem to phase you as much. You begin to let the little things matter again and take chances with accepting things the way they are because that's when you know LOVE is really LOVE xoxo- Moiciara

Open Doors

Life has a way of opening doors for you. By giving you a chance a platform, to evolve and express whom you define yourself as. Now what I mean by "Open Doors" is that emotions have a way of triggering your fate. Depending on your emotions it can lead you in right or wrong direction. Open doors can be liberating at the same time, a realization of the decision you've made to express your evolvement as knowing how to making a decision. That can predict your destiny, your moment, your chance to see the results. One of the best open door techniques, is alone time. Some folks may wonder how can you evolve by being alone? But by alone your allowing yourself to nuture your character, so once your around people it will be fresh, it's kinda like a self evaluation or reality check. I remember watching "Eat, Pray, Love" I was like wow, how corny. But as I started to watch the film everything clicked it wasn't about being on time or being punctual towards life. It was about the experience and how far your willing to let go and embrace life with open doors, new possibilities, new outlook on life and having purpose. So on that note i'll end right there until next time xoxo- Moiciara

The New Guy

Hey everybody, hope you guys didn't forget about me... If you did I decided to make this video on the new guy that may be in your life. Here's how things can happen and shed light on who you're becoming as a person individually and as together - Moiciara

Own A Cheat

I think this is one of the most popular aspects of a relationship, so I hope you guys enjoy this as much as I did getting this off my chest #howudoin! xoxo - Moiciara

Baby Steps to Success

I've always admired people, who I see glimpses of myself in, meaning that hunger for just a little more than the average "white picket dreams". The closest people around me have always showed me ways to fall into what you love and fall out of love with it and fall back in love with it again, because at the end of the day that's life. We go through a lot of challenges and obstacles that seem to put us in a box and labeled and packaged goods. But I never wanted to be labeled as this that and the third but more admired by people to see that same flicker of hope and freedom that I strive to achieve. Anyway lol to the baby steps, Ok you guys I've been hurt by so many things in my life without ever really taking the time to accept those things completely because I always told myself that for every mistake or for every let down there would be something else right behind it to get to a better place. Now don't get me wrong it has been true but what makes it more difficult to really understand was that process, I did everything I needed to do but the alignment was off by that I mean I didn't have that ambition to see myself exactly where I wanted to be, I'd say it but I wasn't feeling it. It wasn't until recently I really became more ambitious about the specifics of exactly what I wanted and how I was determined to achieve it on my own and without the help of others and I did it. Yay me (wrong) I opened the door but I haven't reached the hallway just quite yet and I'm glad that I able to see this before I go full steam ahead lol. As humans we live in the fastlane want to see results and successes at a drop of a dime. But I've always told myself patience is key to be successful everybody has their time to shine and as soon as the "alignment" is right yours will be waiting for you. Without any distractions any type of complications but it will happen (those are the best success stories right). Remember to hold yourself in a way that no one and seriously you guys I mean no one can take that away from you, you share a rare form of existence and only you have the key to unlock your own success story okay (in my moiciara voice lol) xoxo - Moiciara

It's Ok to Love... Again

It's ok to put down your guard and let nature take its course. Sometimes finding things out about love can be very interesting and open up new possibilities to your character. xoxo- Moiciara

Happiness is for the Weak

Happiness comes in so many forms, it's hard to keep track of them that's why it's for the weak. As people we get overjoyed by the simplist things, which sometimes can be damaging to our character. As that saying goes "one small step for mankind"... you know the rest, That motto has always taught us about opening new doors for ourselves. But how many doors had to be shut before we found the right one. Happiness is something that has become so priceless that the value is overflowing with things we wish we could change, no longer worry about or be angry by doing it all over again. Happiness is something we strive for to achieve on yearly journey to achieve. Happiness is for the weak because we have to realize it's become something that has been taken, taken away from us by ourselves, by our loved ones by the people we consider to always be there for us when the tough get's going... Happiness is for the weak because it's been stolen from us beat, kicked and push into our own reality for us to constantly try to reach ultimate happiness. xoxo- Moiciara

Taking Control of Your Perception

When being able to see the world through your eyes. The reality can either be a fantasy or hard core real life. By opening that door you have to make sure your perception of your reality is, something that stands behind everything you want to represent as an individual. As you've led yourself into a place where your representataion, is something you feel you completely believe in, you can then take control of how it's being presented to others. First, remember to always make a plan on how you you want to see these things long term and then start breaking them down in to small goals that you can achieve within a short time. Once thats in place then try looking for places where you can achieve these goals and having a clear direction for these goals to be something you completely stand behind 100%. Remember to use what you have in front of you as a stepping stool, for the things you want to happen happen... until next time xoxo - Moiciara

Overcome UR Obstacles

When your coming into your own, there are always things that may put a stop to your plans. But you have to remember to push forward when doors are closed. xoxo Moiciara

Distractions R UR Bestfriend

Hey you guy's "I'm Back" and this time I'm here to stay so here's a brief video on everything that's happened over the past year and how things can easily distract you from what you need to be doing hope you guys enjoy xoxo - Moiciara