Reboot (Pre Update)

Hey you guys, kinda sorta back lol. this video was made at an exact time in my life, where my energy was in complete bliss. So now I decided to upload this video to share how sometimes in life you need to Reboot the energy around you in order to be happy and find those moments that make you complete xoxo - Moiciara

The Balancing ACT

Whats the one thing about love, that always shows its true colors... EMOTIONS. I can't recall a time, when people around me never showed emotion, when dealing with issues, because if they didn't in all honesty. We wouldn't have anything in common. Now on to my topic for today the balancing act, meaning when dealing with others its not just the satisfaction of compromising, but it becomes a steady speed of constantly having a balancing act of the different dynamics of a relationship. The good, the bad and the ugly, oh I seen all factors of these which, Im sure you guys have too, the one thing that, stands loud and proud is how were able to narrow these feelings down into specific categories due to emotions we feel for the current issue. Love always give you these peeks inside of the true meaning of it, which it starts to become more and more like a scar or a wound. You always seem to be finding out new ways, new parts to the dynamic of what you feeling and as I stated it becomes a balancing act of the current situation, your feelings and how to separate it all, so you can become one with the outcome.
Lets see love is most importantly like a rollercoaster ride, you first prepare for yourself to take this leap of faith on love, to see where it goes. So then its all the lovey dovey stuff, the unexpected text messages and sweet phone calls and all the fondness of being in love... Now its been a little bit of time and things dont seem quite the same (what happened?) Barely hearing from them no sweet messages, there just seems to be some disconnect (why is that?), normally as humans we treat everything disposable, because its all an incontainable rush, we want everything all at the same time and once we get it, the rush slows down due to everything being given too much. This is where the balancing act comes into play never place all your eggs in one batch learn to always have a little snack in your goodie bag, Learn to think in third person, if you was you what would you want or vice versa how would they want it, love is an unexpected feeling there in all honesty is no way you can put a lock and key and give a set amount its all or nothing (ya dig?). Balancing your feelings can work by showing endless amount of love, but by always adjusting the emotion by emotion, teach yourself to not always be in a place of power learn to let someone else run the show. I have a problem with letting completely go due to my own issues, but im teaching myself to get the results you want you have to take the backseat and let someone else drive. Balancing is also important because a relationship is all about compromising, do you know how much it takes to give yourself to someone and someone give themself to you A LOT, and thats what you want, you want endless love that doesnt filll you with doubt, but fill with love remember that until next time xoxo - Moiciara

Life Waits for No One

As your constantly evolving as a person, there is always obstacles to overcome. A lot of times as people we get used to making excuses (I know I do, its a work in progress), but at the same time, we don't want excuses. This is where the chapter begins... LIFE WAITS FOR NO ONE and you know why? You have to always take control over your own situation, whether it's good, bad or indifferent. I know it's hard because when you've been rejected (which no one likes to be rejected) you have to consider it "water off a ducks back". People are always going to be judging you, and making you feel not important, but you have to remember that, you can either allow it to destroy you or continuously move forward... Now I'm going down the move forward path, there was a time when I didn't have anything to show for my worth (I still feel the way every now and then), but what I keep in mind what I do have to show for me is ME, you have yourself worth, your knowledge, your being, attitude, presence these are the things that count in life. Life does wait for you to grab it by the horns and take it to glory (hallelujah lol) So always remember if your looking to be successful in your life/career field you have to put yourself in the light that needs to shine directly upon you. Remember to take risk, healthy risk to implement yourself in situations where you see gain the things that matter the most to you love, life, and the pursuit of happiness. These goals will always fluctuate, do to other creative ideas, but if you want the simple things in life remember to always be your own number one. No one can take that away from you xoxo - Moiciara

Social Media Bad Romance

Hey you guys, I know it's been a while but I'm back with a brand new spanking video talking about the transitions social media plays in relationships. so hopefully you guys enjoys and spread the word xoxo- Moiciara

Meet Me (Yourself) Halfway

Today's video is about meeting yourself halway in order to meet each other halfway. Hope you guys enjoy xoxo - Moiciara

You'll Never Be

One thing about looking yourself in the mirror, is how one thing can be great and another you'll feel you have to work on. I've gotten older, I know I'm no longer a 16yr old boy who is petite skin and bones lol. I've put on a nice amount of weight and whether people see it or not I DO and that's all that matters to me lol, now I'm not saying I'm obsessive or anything but I do tend to dwell on what I want this to look like and what I want that to look like, I have to constantly tell myself, Benjamin you'll work on it, you'll get it together and get it all together... Once that day does come this is what I want you to get out of this message is that you'll never be skinny enough, healthy enough, or happy enough and you know why because we thrive off of fault. It's not a good thing but we always seem to find a problem area that needs a little TLC. I've been there time and time again and it does hurt you, you're gonna always bring something in your past to affect how something is happening in your present it's a part of our mind. It's our history and no one can take that away from us. But what makes you stronger is accepting the fault and moving forward, its never gonna be easy, but it will be challenging... why would you want something easy lol. I always find myself challenging myself without even doing it half time, remember trying to achieve other peoples expectations are setting you up for failure. It's like an light swtich that goes off and what its going to do is give you that extra strength to realize you'll become all the NEVER BE'S because what you will be is yourself and that's all you can shoot for is to be yourself remember that. xoxo - Moiciara

Inspire 2 Inspiration

Hey everybody, I'm back and I wanted to kick things off with showing some love to those that inspire me and hopefully you guys love this video as much as I do xoxo - Moiciara

You Think You Know... EVERYTHANG!

When you say something that people don't like or in a sarcastic tone, they say "you think you know, everything" and most of the time it's a 50/50 chance you may know what the hell your talking about but... why do you feel it necessary to impose that on others. Well as humans we feel it's necessary for us to show our worth (I know its very cave man thinking) but we do, no one can be better, faster or stronger, Because in our mind we feel our worth is more important than the next. Is this a bad trait Yes/No due to the fact we make a lot of impulsive decisions when it comes life and how we want to be perceived. I know I'm one of them, lol it's crazy, but due to me being a Libra (Balance Beam) I always feel it's fair to be able to compromise both sides of an issue. I know it's hard because you feel when your right no one can deprive you of that but what you have to keep in mind is that you can't do it all by yourself you need others to be able to inform you about the journey called life and how others experiences impact you, just like you impact them, knowing everything isn't always a good thing, you have to be able to let down that guard and speak from a vulnerable place that allows you to take that 1 second, to just be ok with the fact you're learning your evolving into a person who's multifaceted which is how people are remembered and thought of. I want to be able to help you guys know that it's ok to be vulnerable, everyday is just like riding a bike for the first time your going and going and sometimes you may not hit the brakes fast enough, but remember you are always going to be teaching yourself, but remember help is always there and when I mean always there! Even when you feel no one is, I've had my share of moments like this and I want you guys to know that as long as your alive and have a way to convey emotions someone is there for you. xoxo - Moiciara

How 2 Handle Ur LOVE

Learning to handle your love is the hardest of task, when in a relationship. Why? because in no shape of form can you control your feelings for someone, now don't get me wrong I'm not saying deny, deny, deny, lol; but what I'm saying is when your committed to someone you have to learn to handle your love. First and formost is by taking the person your with and examining them for who they are their likes and dislikes; now usually this is where you hit a brick wall, because usually when you hear something some you don't like you usually make the ugly face (like I just know you didn't say you don't like peanut butter sandwiches) which leads you into already closing your door of imagination and closing the good, that could come out of this situation.... So what do you do? You have to teach yourself, everytyhing in a relationship your not going to like about the person, but that's what makes the handling you're love more exciting, ok now I know I probably lost you, your probably reading this and like how does a person dislikes make it more exciting..... BECAUSE you know if your really into this person there is a strong chance that your going to try to think that you can change this aspect of them and it may just work. Once you've caught your fish *wink,wink* Now it's time to see what are they're goals and all that ooey gooey stuff that holds the love together. I usually like to play Oprah (don't knock it until you try it) because I want to know exactly what I'm getting into and I already know there are already gon' be a lot of things that are going to raise a red flag, but this is what you do you have to see where is the sexual connection is ( I know people love to act like sex isn't a major part in a relationship but in all honesty it's a good 75% of the relationship) because once you find this out and experience it you'll know how serious you are to take this relationship its a much needed process into getting to know the person. Learning something that's a fear is always great because it allows the person to be vulnerable and you get to see a side of them that your going to feel the need to connect with because this is going to be the aspect that holds the mental side of the relationship.... did I just say mental oh yes I did, it ain't all about the love making. Here we go with the mental aspect of the relationship, It's the hardest thing in the world to sync with someone mentally because at in instance notice, things can go completely in the different direction, I've had a lot of moments when things can catch me off guard and I'm like how can I reel this back in, what I do is realize it's ok to embrace your differences of conversations because it's all about compromising and taking in what you see as a road block and make it a highway on your road to victory with your love for this person. Overall I want you guys to understand handling your love is definitely no easy step, but what can be easy is you knowing your presence and existence in the relationship knowing that both of you, exist in this relationship for reason that you may never exactly be able to pinpoint, but what makes it worth as your both able to put those differences aside for the common factor which is L.O.V.E and embracing that will always win. xoxo- Moiciara

Temptations: Questions, Answers, and Results!

We all want the same thing, to live a good life, be healthy, be wealthy, and be able to strong. So today's blog post is about finding your own answers and answering your own questions and receiving your results. I wanted to make a post about something we always go through on a daily basis, and before somebody say this post is the same it ain't it's different because I'm a uniquely creative writer that's able to stretch a subject matter into a new spectrum. There is always something that left on the cutting room floor, so I want to continue to give you that and with that said let's talk: Questions: You always find yourself questioning your existence even when you think your not doing it... your doing it. It's fine though because as humans we are always socially consicous of what were doing even when we think were not. We always want to question everything. Like right now I'm questioning if you guys will enjoy this post but at the same time I'm resolving that feeling saying: who cares, it's my blog! the results: your view. While questioning my existence it becomes more about how your going to live your life by having a job a family, and just having a great life. Which all are hard to accomplish, most people always have an obstacle to overcome such as being able to pay rent, being able to hold on to the job that's your resource for income, being able to maintain being in school and graduate and seek employment for a higher paying jobs, all while trying to reach these goals you have that one most important aspect of your life that takes center stage and thats... LIFE the more you consider doing these things you decided to find the answers and want to have the benefits of results, but life can easily cause a lot of distractions love, family and maintenance of it all. I've been there and done that, have had these obstacles in front of me and still have them in front of me but at the same time I try to find my own Answers: When I'm in doubt, I try to analyze, what's going to be the outcome of this and that if I don't do this or that. Which can be hard temptation is always lurking and you have to be prepared to look it in the face and say NO, because at the end of the day you want to be able to reward yourself with knowing that you found the answers to your problems. Now don't get me wrong, I know how I am I love to shop like shopping comes so easy it's like second nature. But what I tell myself there is a time and place for everything and one day you'll be able to reward yourself with something you thought was out of your reach your Results: Results is something that comes very rarely, I know you like what you mean? But it does, it's so hard to reach results because once you've reached one result, there goes another one that you're going to be trying to reach, In life we reach mild results meaning we only always eat half of the pie, as soon as we think were full we'll want more, and that's fine that means your ambitious, maybe an over-achiever but at the same time it's like an adrenaline rush, because your testing yourself to constantly get better and make sure you achieve what goal you have in mind, But what's exciting about reaching your results, is it's an accolade something you can be proud of. I want to wrap all of this up by saying staying true and walking in your existence, gives you purpose and finding your way on the road of victory gives you the satisfaction of knowing that there always something to look forward to no matter how many things get in your way you have to have faith in yourself and what you believe in and you will receive. - xoxo Moiciara

R U Relationship Ready?

You know as love come and go, sometimes you have to ask yourself R U relationship ready? xoxo - Moiciara

I'm Back from my Blog-Cation

Hey everybody, there was so many things going on over the past months. I was recuperating from a lot of things mostly life issues, thank god for good health lol. But seriously I lost one of my bestfriend/brother due to a very shameless act of violence, and with that happening it really made me feel a certain way about a lot of things and it's still hard to move on. But I'm willing to put my best foot forward cause at the end of the day I know that's what he would want me and the ones that loved him would do. So I'm back and ready to take over the Blog world again lol, or should I say day by day. Thanks for having people around me, supporting me and just loving me, really meant a lot to me over the past few months. I want to let you guys know that I appreciate all the love and support, that I received from people from every aspect. People have really touched me and it's amazing how, people can impact you without knowing you. I've been moved and now it's time to move you guys I'm getting back on my grind, blowing the dust off my camera, off the laptop and time to serve you the delicious dishes, you've all been waiting for or wanting 2nds and 3rds of lol xoxo- Moiciara